Want to know how you judge yourself? Look at how you judge others. Why is this important? Because realizing how you judge yourself is the first step to healing the mind, the body and the spirit. It is the first step in releasing the boundaries of how you want to experience life, your life. It's the first step in changing your beliefs and allowing new ones to be created, ones which you have chosen.
So, the elephant can't climb a tree but the monkey swiftly maneuvers to the highest branch. The elephant can easily move heavy objects which the monkey can not budge. Which animal has more worth? This is an old analogy of an ever present belief. We find our worthiness and that of others when we stop comparing, judging. Comparing creates competition. Whose better? It depends on what is needed, right? That's why its great to be in this all together, we can rely on each other. Once we stop judging we can see our own gifts and the gifts of others. So, in order to see the worthiness of ourselves and others, we must stop judging, we must change our beliefs that one thing is better than another.
Look around yourself, your world. Notice how you surround yourself with those who have the same beliefs as you have chosen? It's comfortable, because you know the rules. We know what's expected and can be comfortable with the outcome. This is evident in life. It can be religious, geographical, clubs and organizations, etc. This is the affect of the mind, for the mind chooses what it has experienced and what knowledge it has gained through teachings, books and conversations with others and their experiences. The mind is very literal, very black and white, 1 + 1 = 2, right?
There are many circumstances in which we chose to go by a certain "recipe" as it does make life flow easily. When a birthday cake is needed for a celebration, a recipe takes away the challenge of creating your own and re-inventing the wheel. But what if we just let life happen? What if we take away all judgements of right or wrong? What if you accept yourself for what and who you are? What will happen then? If we keep thinking the same thoughts we have always thought, we will keep getting the same outcomes we have always gotten. Like a hamster on a wheel, its a choice to stay on the wheel, it's safe, always getting the same outcome and the mind likes that, but do you want to find and create more experiences which the mind has no idea exist? The mind cannot imagine what it has not experienced, only the heart can. So let the heart speak. Keep the mind busy with new ways to navigate life, ones which it has never experienced before. The heart can initiate it, the mind will process it. Try something new, one which you have no expectations but only the intention to experience. Most stay away from new experiences as the possibility of "failure" lurks in the corners of their mind. Failure, a judgement of oneself, there is no such thing as failure, only experience. Experience teaches, words don't.
How to start? We offer this suggestion: In the morning, before your feet hit the floor, set the intention for your day, how you want to create and experience your day; love, joy, peace, or all of them and more. Think about what you are grateful for. Feel the emotion of this gratefulness and let it make you smile. Then, you can take a new route to work and experience a different path. It will keep you on your toes as you watch and heede new traffic signals, new turns and new people. This keeps you from becoming complacent in your life and heightens the physical senses along with new thoughts which can be created out of your morning intention. This is the objective, new thoughts, experiencing the new with fresh boundaries, your intention. Then watch the day unfold. Your intentions will go before you bringing to you the same through synchronicities, people and places.
Be mindful, see/feel how you judge others for you are judging yourself. We are all One, your brother is your servant showing and reflecting back to you how you actually feel about yourself. Realize this and you will begin to see how harshly you treat yourself. Set your intention to love, starting with yourself for you are perfect, always have been.
A happy life is an inside job. It's your choice.
Sending you love,